As a disabled person let me explain. If you are disabled young in life you adjust and live with it. If you spend most able bodied then when the disabilty comes you try to deny it. This happened to me a stroke at 51. People say oh you dont look like you had a stroke and I think I dont know what to look I want to be normal. A doctor told me I would learn to hide it and I did. But the disability is there the daily pain but that is not for discussion it is private.